How do I know if I’m ‘skin hungry’, ‘affection-deprived’ or ‘touch-deprived’?
Take the Touch Deprivation Quiz.
What exactly do you offer?
Good question. I’m a Companionship Consultant offering connection, companionship, and opportunities for community to men who might be affection and touch deprived. It is my contribution to making this amazing planet we call home a much better place - one client at a time. The services I provide - cuddle therapy, companionship, massage and private tours - are all aimed at supporting this. For the avoidance of doubt, our relationship, albeit intimate, is entirely platonic and professional. I do not sell/contract/offer sexual activities. I strive to make our time together relaxing, memorable, stimulating, and authentic. I want to develop a genuine connection in which we look forward to seeing one another again and again. Although this is The Boyfriend Experience, I am happy to be available at your convenience, and only then.
I’m something of a public figure - how do you ensure discretion?
Being well-known can be a blessing in a great many ways but it can also be a great burden. Public figures ranging from small town mayors to internationally known musicians and performers like to have someone in their corner who is not looking for something from them. They enjoy having a trusted confidant who they can connect with, and who can touch them and be touched without the expectation of sex.
Discretion is very important to me. It is essential to my business, as it is to yours. I am often asked about my famous clients. My typical response is that I cannot say, and it would be unethical for me to divulge that information. I will not acknowledge or speak to you in public outside of our time together unless you initiate contact. I will respond to you as I would a stranger.
Below are frequently asked service-specific questions:
You matter to me!
This is YOUR session. If you want anything changed: pressure, areas worked, position or if you are too hot or too cold ... please let me know! My feelings won’t be hurt by you asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy. Also, what you requested in one session may be different in another. If you had a full body massage last time, but this time you only want your back/neck/shoulders/arms worked, it's perfectly fine to let me know.
Should I undress completely?
You should undress to the level you are comfortable. For a full body massage, most get completely undressed. However, if you will be more comfortable during the session if you leave your underwear on, that's fine. I will work around the clothes you left on as best as I can. If removing all your clothes makes you too nervous and unable to relax, then you are not getting the optimal benefit from the session. I will give you privacy to undress and get comfortable on the table.
What if I am self-conscious about certain parts of my body?
If you’re uncomfortable with getting a specific area treated don’t be embarrassed to mention it to me. I can avoid those areas. I will typically ask you before I begin your massage.
Can I talk during my session?
Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that this treatment is all about you relaxing and enjoying the experience. In many instances, people may feel more relaxed starting off talking, and as the massage progresses, enter quiet states of relaxation. The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I am doing anything that is making you uncomfortable, please let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you it’s perfectly ok to let me know!
What if I get an erection during my massage?
Sometimes it happens. Yet, most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or, they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there is no reason to be embarrassed. It is entirely normal get an erection even during a non-sexual, therapeutic, full body massage. Touch administered to any part of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which can result in a partial or complete erection. Just relax and enjoy the massage.
What do I do during a massage treatment?
Make yourself comfortable. If I need you to adjust your position, I will either move you or ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session; others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your massage, and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time.
Am I supposed to leave a tip?
No. Tips and gifts are never required, so I will receive any additional generosity you choose to extend with with surprise and excitement.
I want you to plan an event in Los Angeles, but I live in another city/state/country, can you help me?
Most certainly! Many of my clients do not live in Los Angeles – they live all over the world. So I am very comfortable with out-of-city/state/country clients and communicating via phone, e-mail, FaceTime, and Skype.
I would like you to plan an event outside of your home base Los Angeles, can you do that?
Without batting an eyelid! I have planned hundreds of events in locations that were thousands of miles away from me, and this will be no different. Miami, FL; Atlanta, GA; Nashville, TN; Toronto, Canada; Punta Cana, Dominican Republic, Las Vegas, NV…the list is long.
It’s my first time. What do I do?
It's completely normal to be nervous when you contact me for the first time. It is not uncommon for touch deprived people to be uncomfortable with being touched or held by a stranger for longer than is essential. All you need to do is express an interest in meeting then leave the rest up to me. I’ll make sure you feel at ease and avoid any awkwardness.
How do I get the most out of a booking with you?
If you want to get the most out of your time with me, there are a few things you can do to ensure you have the best possible experience. Feel free to ask questions. If you're embarrassed or nervous, let me know it's your first time and that you feel a little awkward. This helps me to help you relax, talk a little more, and allow you to get comfortable. Go into your booking with an open mind and you'll leave having had a memorable experience.
Do you travel?
Yes, I'm based in Los Angeles and I welcome travel requests anywhere in the world. If you wish to see me outside of a scheduled tour date please contact me so we can make special arrangements.
What if we accidentally meet out in public?
I understand your need for discretion. In the event that we do meet out in public, I will not acknowledge I know you unless you say something first. Unless you strike up a conversation with me, I will probably politely smile and nod as I would a stranger. Feel free to call or text me afterwards so we can laugh about it!
How do we say we know each other?
Especially if we will be attending a social engagement, it would be worthwhile to meet ahead of time to discuss our cover story. That way, we will be sure not to contradict each other. I like to speak by phone in advance so we get acquainted, and to take care of some housekeeping. We can also meet up half an hour or so in advance so as to be comfortable in each other's company. Both of these present opportunities for us to get to know each other. As a rule of thumb, it is best not to make up an elaborate story – simple is always better. Only we will know it’s brilliant improv…
Who pays for dinner, or tickets or any similar costs?
Payments to me are for my time and companionship. You, are responsible for any other costs incurred, including but not limited to dinner, drinks, tickets, and travel beyond 25 miles.
What if you don’t like me?
Well, what if you don’t like ME? It happens. Not often, but occasionally, you or I may realize that the chemistry between us just isn’t there, and I will politely excuse myself.
If we meet and you are certain that I’m simply not what you were expecting, it’s important that you let me know as soon as possible.
We’re all just human, after all. Sometimes it simply isn’t a match.
Politeness is appreciated and you can count on it from me.
A nice email that says more than “45, male, attractive, 6 foot, need appointment Sunday at 3” goes a very long way.
If you’re running late, kindly let me know. Please note that I might have another appointment and may not be able to extend the original end time of our scheduled date.
I will keep our engagements discreet and I would appreciate discretion from you as well.
There will be no discussion of consideration while we are together.
Schedules can change at a moment's notice, but please be respectful of my time and give me 48-hours advance notice.
For extended international travel, please book at least 2 weeks in advance.
For the sake of discretion, I prefer to make my own travel arrangements
What can I expect on my private tour?
My personal tours are designed exclusively for you. They provide a learning experience that is completely tailored to you. You have complete flexibility with scheduling (you decide when the walk best fits in your trip, when to stop for lunch, etc.). I’ll tailor the itinerary to your particular interests and activity level), so you and I can spend time together doing only what you want to do without having to consider other people.
What is included/not included?
My tours include transportation (picking you up and dropping you off at your hotel or airport), my time, parking fees and tolls, entrance fees and other incidentals directly related to the tour.
Because of the variety of tastes, preferences, and price points, the cost of lunch for both of us is not included.
May I ask questions?
By all means! And I’ll endeavor to answer your questions as best I can.
Do you recommend travel insurance?
YES. It is too big of a risk, especially in this day and age, not to purchase insurance to cover your investment. From Zika to hurricanes to the terrorism attacks to unexpected earthquakes and volcanoes erupting, there have been so many completely unforeseen issues that have arisen in the past few years that are covered only if insurance has been purchased. We recommend you book through your preferred insurance provider – the important thing to us is that you are covered.
If you decide not to cover yourself with travel insurance, we will ask you to sign a waiver stating this.
I’ve never done this before. What’s the right way to cuddle?
It’s different for every session. People are unique and have their own preferences. Some like to talk, some don’t. Some like a lot of physical contact, some like a little. Sometimes you might feel lively and playful, other times you might feel quiet and introspective. There are a lot of right ways to cuddle! Half of the fun is in discovering what is right for YOU. Have fun!
What happens in a session?
Once you’ve changed and gotten settled, we’ll chat for a few minutes to get to know one another, and then I’ll guide you through some breathing and relaxation activities to get you started. You will have a chance to ask any questions you might have. Our session could include eye-contact, hugging, sharing conversation or quiet, hand-holding, caressing, spooning and lots of other activities. There are almost 80 different cuddling positions, so there’s something for everyone. Our session can be at my place, or your place, or in a public place. It could be a walk in the park holding hands, or cuddling in the movie theaterYou can come with your ideas and requests. What I offer you is a safe space to feel loved, understood, and appreciated.
I’m afraid I might cry. Is that ok?
Yes, absolutely! Please allow yourself to – it can feel amazing to cry while you’re being held.
Can I talk during a session?
How much you talk and what you talk about is entirely up to you.
Can I fall asleep?
Yes, of course. If sleeping is something you enjoy as part of your cuddle therapy, then go right ahead.
What if I feel uncomfortable or want to stop?
If you become uncomfortable in any way at any time, please say so. Stop whatever is causing discomfort and adjust accordingly. Please do not wait until your discomfort is large, do this at the first hint of it. This is your session and none of it needs to feel any less than great! If you would like to end your session early for any reason simply say so.
What if I get an erection?
Arousal is a natural and healthy human response to all kinds of things including touch and should not make you feel embarrassed. Acknowledge it, or celebrate your being a healthy human, and let go of it. However, you can ask to switch positions or take a break if you feel awkward about it.